Why Do I Attract the Wrong Guys? (Girls)
Question:
“Why I do I keep attracting the wrong type of guys?”
Answer:
I get this question all the time, and although it’s a quick question, at times, it requires a long answer. Nevertheless, I would like to post a previous article that may shed a little bit of light on your particular situation.
I have a confession to make. When I was younger, I was extremely insecure, and it affected the way I approached relationships with the opposite sex. How? I’m glad you asked.
Most people in the market for a mate have a little checklist in the file cabinet of their mind when it comes to choosing a spouse. On one side is listed the positive qualities that they want in a mate, and on the other side is listed the negative qualities that they are willing to overlook.
Newsflash: Single men, women, and teens with a low self-worth or a less than accurate view of themselves are willing to accept a greater amount of negative qualities in their potential mate than singles with a healthy sense of significance. Why? Oftentimes, they do not believe they deserve any better. This, by the way, is one of the reasons why so many people from homes where they were treated poorly end up marrying someone that treats them in a similar fashion. You see, when they were treated poorly as kids, they actually believed that they were as low and insignificant as they felt when others mistreated them (This is discussed in our Christian Anger Management book, Angry Without a Cause. Click Here for to Order.), and, consequently, this affected their view of themselves and what they deserved as a human beings.
The above mentioned scenario is more than problematic, and it is why so many singles are willing to overlook either a bad relationship or negative character traits in their potential spouse when they “pop-up” before marriage. Listen ever so closely. If you are in a pre marriage relationship and you are always finding that you are making excuses for other person, justifying their negative behavior, caught in a cycle of resentment and anger, or perpetually saying to yourself, “After marriage, I’m sure I’ll be able to tame their temper.”, then you may need to take a few steps back before you tie the knot. Remember, problems before marriage do not get better after the wedding day. If anything, they get worse without a sincere change of heart or Divine intervention.
If you or someone you know is constantly finding that they are attracting the wrong type of people as boyfriends or girlfriends, you may want to check out our Video on our Cd Series called Divore 101 – How to Prepare for a Mediocre Marriage. For more information, Click Here.
Watch this Special Message from Dr. Raymond Force to all Teenagers, Singles, and Parents of the same.
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Answer submitted by Christian Youth / Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
