What is Wrong with Sex Before Marriage (Premarital Sex)?
Question: “What’s wrong with having sex before marriage [Premarital Sex]?”
Answer:
I often say that if good looks, hormones, passion, and money were enough to make a marriage work, then there would be no divorces in Hollywood. It takes much more than these for a relationship to work. In fact, some of the items I just mentioned should be in a marital relationship, such as passion, feelings, and romance, but they are to be the fourth or fifth cart behind the main engine. In other words, marriage must have passion, romance, and feelings, but if these are going to be in a relationship on a consistent basis, then two other things must also be present. These are character and true, Biblical love.
Now, here’s the problem with getting physical before marriage. When two people are getting physical before marriage, they are not trying to be a blessing to each other as much as they are just trying to “get all they can” from one another. To put it plainly, this has absolutely nothing to do with true love. Remember, true love wants the other person to be holy and pure in the sight of God. I Corinthians 13:5 puts it this way. It says that true love “seeketh not her own”. Also, the same chapter of Corinthians states that true love “rejoiceth not in iniquity”. Therefore, according to the scriptures, enjoyment of activity that is sinful in nature cannot be based in true love, but rather, selfishness.
Here is the main point that I would like to make in this article. The problem with getting physical with one another before marriage is that couples are building a relationship that is based on selfishness right from the start. This is huge. Why? A healthy marriage and selfishness are like oil and water. They do not mix. In fact, they hardly belong in the same sentence let alone the same household, and when couples get physical before the wedding day, they are giving room for this very unwelcome guest in their home, once again, right from the start!
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Answer submitted by Christian Youth / Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
