Signs of an Unhealthy Premarital – Premarriage Relationship
Many of our readers are from homes where yelling, name-calling, sarcasm, hitting, mind-games, and control issues were a normal, everyday occurrence. That is, many have never really experienced what a functional home looks like, and, to be quite honest, they feel that yelling, name-calling, and all the things I just mentioned are just a normal and / or natural part of marriage and family life. Consequently, when they see these things come to the surface in their premarital relationships, they tend to think that this is acceptable. Big mistake! In fact, just because it is normal and / or natural does not mean that it is okay. I often say that marijuana is natural, but that does not necessarily mean that it is good for the human body and mind.
Conflict is normal and unavoidable in life, but conflict does not mean that yelling, name-calling, fighting, and all the things that I mentioned before have to occur. In fact, conflict can be a great glue for many couples, but only if they handle it properly. I often say that conflict can be a bridge to a deeper and a more intimate relationship with your partner, however, once again, only if it is handled properly.
If you see that when a disagreement arises in your relationship with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or finance that name-calling, sarcasm, mind games, control issues, and yelling almost always come to the surface, then you may need to take a few steps back (despite what your hormones want to do) and face these issues head on before you say “I do”. Trust me, it’s a lot easier to deal with these issues before marriage, children, in-laws, and financial pressures start “coming into play”.
At Hitting Home, we offer a few options for couples looking for some Christian-based premarital help. Take a look at the following options that we provide:
1. Audio Cd Series – Divorce 101 – How to Prepare for a Mediocre Marriage
If you are a teen, single, or parent of the same, this resource is a must. This Cd Series details how many teens and singles alike are actually doing more to prepare for having a dismal or mediocre marriage than a healthy, vibrant, and God-filled relationship. To watch a short video about this Cd Series, Click Here.
2. Give us a call today to ask about our 3-session, Preventative Maintenance Program for couples considering marriage. In these 3 sessions, Dr. Force will not only cater his coaching to better suit your needs as a couple, but he will also provide instruction concerning our Proven, 2-Step process to staying out of the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in your soon to be marriage.
3. You may want to consider ordering our Cd Series called How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in a Marriage. This is a great resource for couples to listen to before marriage. If they will carefully put into practice our Proven, 2-Step process, they will alleviate many of the hardships that plague so many marriages today. Click Here for more information.
4. Premarriage Coaching for singles and / or dating couples over the telephone. Call 1-888-354-2346 for more information.
Watch this Special Message from Dr. Raymond Force to all Teenagers, Singles, and Parents of the same.
To Order our Audio Cd Series called Divorce 101 – How to Prepare for a Mediocre Marriage, Click Here.
Article written by Christian Youth / Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
