Is it Wrong to Have Sex Before Marriage?
Question: “Is it Wrong to Have Sex Before Marriage?”
Answer: There are a variety of reasons as to why and how sex before marriage (premarital sex – losing your virginity) will hurt your marriage, and there are a myriad of reasons as to why it is something that you should not do, however, I will take this time to just name one.
Many teens, singles, and dating couples are just totally unaware of the tremendous gamble that they are taking by getting physical or participating in premarital sex with one another before marriage. I use the word “gamble” because as long as a woman is allowing a man to have access to her body before marriage, she will never really know until after the wedding day if he is going to love and care for her without the “carrot” of physical intimacy “dangling at the end of a string”. From my vantage point, most girls that take this gamble typically lose.
Many women are shocked as to the negative behavior of their husband after the wedding day in comparison to before the wedding day. They feel that the man has mystically changed or morphed into what she never dreamed her man would ever be. In fact, read very carefully an excerpt from an article that I once wrote on this subject:
“Many times, after about six months of being married, the young wife starts to call mom when he is still out playing basketball with the guys or in the other room watching his third or fourth television show in a row and says something to the effect of, ‘Mom, he’s changed!’ or ‘He’s not the same guy I married a few months back. He’s totally different now.’. You see, the young husband previously spent most of his free time thinking about her, calling her on the telephone, buying her gifts, telling her anything she wanted to hear, and he would actually look at her and only her when they went out to eat instead of the four or five television sets at the local restaurant.
The big question is: Has he really changed? The answer is, no. HE IS THE SAME SELFISH MAN THAT SHE KNEW 6 MONTHS BEFORE THEY WERE MARRIED. However, now, because those feelings that previously drove the relationship are no longer present and the newness and the curiosity of getting physically intimate has worn off, instead of spending his time gratifying his body through hers, he is now just pleasing himself through the television, video games, his friends, sporting events, food, possibly drugs, alcohol, et cetera. You see, nothing has really changed. He’s still selfish. It is just that he is not spending all of his waking hours trying to please himself through her. He is merely taking a different path so that his body and ego might be gratified in some way, shape, or form. You see, all that has really changed is the ‘carrot at the end of the stick’.”
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Watch this Special Message from Dr. Raymond Force to all Teenagers, Singles, and Parents of the same.
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Answer submitted by Christian Youth / Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
