How Sex Before Marriage Will Hurt a Marriage
I like to say that what the Devil calls a “mountain-top experience” always, in some form or fashion, ends in a “downhill slide”. Without a doubt, this is also the case when it comes to premarital sex (sex before marriage).
In our Audio Cd Series called Divorce 101 – How to Prepare for a Mediocre Marriage (Click Here for more information.), I give 7 very distinct reasons as to why those that either volunteer their virginity or choose to get physically intimate before marriage are hurting their future relationship with their husband or their wife. Below is just 1 of those 7 reasons.
When couples are physical with one another before the wedding day, the feelings that they experience tend to be, no doubt, intense and rather intoxicating. I must say, however, this poses a huge problem in that these very same feelings tend to cause each person in the relationship to overlook the negative qualities of their relationship and / or the other person. I often say that these feelings push down the real issues that need to be considered in a premarital relationship.
Now, we have an even bigger problem. After the wedding day, you do not always have all of those intense and intoxicating feelings present, but you do have the other person along with all their negative qualities (and believe you me – we all got ‘em.) staring you right in the face.
Please listen very closely. The purpose of a pre marriage relationship is not to have fun. You can go to the batting cages or the putt-putt course for that. The purpose of a pre marriage relationship is to test the other person and your relationship with that other person in the areas of compatibility and character. Unfortunately, the “test” is seldom taken because both parties are often out “playing on recess”, and I think you can read between the lines on that one.
Unfortunately, “test day” finally arrives not too long after the wedding day, and, many couples are, surprisingly, “flunking the test”. Now, God’s not surprised, but they are. Why the big surprise? Their hormones and, consequently, their feelings convinced them that before marriage a “test” was not necessary. In fact, the negative attributes of their relationship and one another were present during the entire dating / courtship process, however, they were only “quiet” because they were sent to “study hall” where the young couple should have been in the first place.
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Article written by Christian Youth / Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
