Parent Looking for Christian Resource on Premarital Sex – Keeping Virginity for Teenager (Christian Resource for Parents)
Question:
“I am a parent of a teenage boy. I am looking for some Christian material to help me teach my children about keeping their purity and virginity and staying away from premarital sex. Do you know of any resources that will help?”
Answer:
This is a common question that I receive for two basic reasons:
1. Many parents are looking for some type of help in this area because they would like their children to avoid many of the mistakes they previously made before marriage. That is, the world, via premarital sex and sexual promiscuity, offers teens and singles a mountain top experience that always ends in a downhill slide. Many parents are keenly aware of the feeling of sliding down the slippery slope that follows that supposed mountain top experience, and they do not want their children to fall prey to the same temptation.
2. Sexual temptation is rampant in our society today, therefore, many parents are diligently looking for some type of help so that they may counteract the waves of temptation that are overflowing the hearts of their precious girls and boys.
All that being said, let me answer your question in the following way:
I am convinced that we are attacking the problem of divorce entirely too late. Yes, I believe couples in crisis need immediate help. That’s a no-brainer. Nevertheless, I do not believe that most marital problems start when husbands and wives exchange their vows, nor do I believe that couples mysteriously fall out of love. The problem starts with many years before the wedding day.
I have five children, however, I do not look at them as simply children. They are future adults that will, one day, have to serve the Lord and others on their own volition. Not only that, but they will determine their destiny by the type of person they pick as a mate and the preparations that they make before the wedding day. Consequently, I HAVE STARTED THEIR MARRIAGE COUNSELING NOW by the example my wife and I set before them, the conflict resolution skills we teach them, and the wisdom that we share with them on a day to day basis.
To put it plainly, I have enrolled every child of mine into, let’s say, Marriage 101 years before their wedding day, but, sad to say, I believe that many children today are enrolled in what I call Divorce 101. That is, I am convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that our society is doing more to prepare our young people, teens, and singles for divorce than a healthy, God-filled marriage. This is being done through a variety of ways, however, one of them definitely includes the utterly lax attitude that our society has toward teens and singles losing their virginity (premarital sex – sex before marriage) and / or getting physically intimate with one another.
Now, this leads me to my next big point. I believe that we place a lot of blame on our young people for the state of our youth, but I am a firm believer that this is a mere deflection. That is, the blame is often misguided in that our young people are, oftentimes, a mere byproduct of a society and family structure that does little to protect children from negative influences and thought processes that will prove to hurt them for life. Let me be clear, it is not the job of the school system, the church, or the local youth pastor to ensure that my children are protected from negative influences and thought patterns. Though all of these may serve as a tool, ultimately, it is my responsibility as Dad (Deuteronomy 11:18-19 and Ephesians 6:4).
Our Audio Cd Series called Divorce 101 – How to Prepare for a Mediocre Marriage will help you as a single person or a parent to transfer yourself or your children from Divorce 101 to Marriage 101. In this Audio Cd Series, we discuss the specific ways that our society is helping our teens and singles to prepare for a mediocre marriage rather than a healthy, God-filled marriage. It is not only suitable for “virgin ears”, but I would have to be honest by saying that my main desire is for as many parents, grandparents, and guardians as possible to listen to the Cd Series. Why? Once again, I believe that the power to impact teens and singles does not necessarily lie with teens and singles, but with those that have an authoritative influence over them. Remember, children and teenagers are like water in that they tend to take the path of least resistance (Proverbs 22:15). A parent’s job is to “dam up’ negative tendencies, thought patterns, and behaviors with our example, our discipline, our words, and the Word of God. For more information about this Audio Cd Series, Click Here.
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Answer submitted by Christian Youth / Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
