Why is Divorce so Painful?
Question:
“My wife wants a divorce. I want to work things out and get counseling, but she doesn’t. I can’t think straight, and I am having a hard time at work. Why is this so difficult? Do you have any type of advice for me?”
Answer:
I will answer your question by posting an excerpt from on of our latest email newsletters.
Why is divorce so demanding on the human body and mind? Why is divorce so emotionally and physically costly? Why is it that of all the things that a person can experience, divorce is one of the most exhausting processes that a person can go through?
Well, here it is. When two people are married, two souls unite into one. That’s no surprise, by the way. The scriptures tell us that when two individuals are married, those same people become “one flesh”. Unfortunately, if divorce occurs, a death takes place in the deepest part of a person’s soul, and, sad to say, it is always a slow and painful death. In fact, one of the reasons why it is so painful is because both husband and wife are living witnesses to their own funeral. If there was an obituary to a divorce, they would both be listed as “the deceased” and “survivors” at the same time.
If that wasn’t bad enough, they also have to deal with the horrible stench of the corpse of their marriage for months and, sometimes, years to come. I know it’s not pretty, but if anyone can paint the horrific picture of divorce, it is someone like me who deals with the stench of divorce on a day to day basis.
Even the sickest of individuals can fight death off. It’s no secret that funeral parlors experience a jump in business after Christmas. Coincidence? Not at all. People have an ability (whether conscious or subconscious) to fight off the inevitable. Maybe with a little more effort, work, and understanding, you could do the same.
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
