We Fight About Small Things
Question:
“This last weekend my husband and I got into a big fight about something in the kitchen. It seems to be a pattern with us. Is it normal to fight about small things?”
Answer:
“It’s not the big boulders in the road that typically ‘trip us up’. Usually it’s the tiny granules of sand in our shoes that irritate us the most.”
This is a statement that I often relate to marriage and relationships. What does it mean? Simple. It’s the small things that we do that often cause friction in our marriages.
Over the years, I have heard it all. As I have listened to couples telling of their arguments and their fights, I have often found that many big fires start with a small spark. That is, a little sarcastic statement, an unthoughtful remark, or a little sigh as you walk away from your spouse can often cause the worst of arguments.
Likewise, I have often seen that the smallest acts of random kindness can also go a long way. Why? They show our spouses that in the midst of juggling schedules, rearing children, and moving forward with our jobs and careers, we care about them.
Mankind has one basic need. It’s called love. As a matter of fact, when most people act negatively, I believe it is because of a lack of love in their life. Everyone of us operates like a bank of account. If you withdraw more than is being deposited, then at some point others get a statement. However, the bank typically gives their statements in a much nicer manner.
Ultimately, each of us needs God’s love, however, I am so thankful that God has provided different mediums by which I can experience “God’s love with skin on it”. One of those mediums is to be the church and other brothers and sisters in Christ, but another one of those mediums is marriage.
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
