We Don’t Like Each Other Anymore (Husband and Wife)
Question:
“I feel that my husband and I don’t like each other anymore even though we have been married for years and have raised two kids. I love my husband as a person, but what should we do?”
Let me answer this question by posting an article called “I Love You, but I Just Don’t Like You.”.
Sad to say, but I believe that the title of this article describes many marriages that are in our society today. Why? Well, let’s get really honest with one another. If both participants in a marriage possess poor conflict resolution skills, bad character traits, or a lack of understanding of true love and commitment, then, at some point, they are going to appear very unlikable in each other’s eyes. This, by the way, is why the couple that couldn’t stay away from each other six months before marriage, can now hardly be with each other for six minutes without some type of an argument starting to brew.
What’s the problem? Is this just the way marriage is? Should we just give up on marriage and go from partner to partner once the bucket of fun and “giddiness” runs dry, or should we just allow our marriages to slowly morph into a “Ma and Pa Kettle” marriage where both parties are just, kind-of putting up with one another?
My answer is no to all the above in that God has designed marriage to be the most fulfilling human relationship that we are to have here on this earth (Proverbs 5:15-20). That being the case, if God has said that marriage should be a tremendous source of emotional, mental, and physical exhilaration, then any husband or wife that feels unsatisfied in their relationship with their spouse should do the homework that it takes to figure out what could possibly be “damming up” God’s blessings from flooding their marriage.
I can honestly say that there was a time when my wife wasn’t so sure that she liked the package that she opened on her wedding day, and, I would have to say rightfully so. Thanks be to God, however, that we sought out answers from the Bible, Christian-based teachers on marriage, and other good resources that taught us how to not only love each other, but also like each other again. In reality, I often tell couples that it is important to learn to like each other as friends as well as loving each other as lovers.
What a tragedy it would have been if we would have thrown in the “marriage towel”? To be gut honest, I love my life, my wife, and everything that goes along with that. In fact, I love being married so much that it literally scares me to think of the wonderful life that we would have thrown away if God would not had directed us to follow His principles instead of our immature feelings as newlyweds.
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
