Do You Want out of Your Marriage before It’s Too Late To Find Another Man or Woman?
Do You Want out of Your Marriage? (Christian-based article)
It’s just a common occurrence. I find many men and women (especially women) around the age of forty to fifty that feel that they are in a troubled marriage. As a result, they put their life on a little time line, and they come to the conclusion that if they don’t jump ship now, there will be little time left for them to meet someone new and enjoy a fulfilling life together. Statements like the ones listed below either readily flow through their mind or find a way of coming from their lips:
“Soon”, I will start to age and lose my edge as a young-looking, beautiful woman [or handsome man].”
or
“The longer I wait, the less chance I will have of finding someone else.”
or
“I’m just wasting my time working on this marriage. He [or she] will never change.”
I often say that you can prove anything with logic as long as you start on the wrong premise, and the problem with the above mentioned scenario is that these thoughts are based on a shaky platform. I would label that platform selfishness, and below, I have listed a few problems with this platform:
Problem #1:
It’s not what you signed up for when you said “I do”. That is, not a one of us said, “As long as you meet my every need, I will give this marriage a go.”. No, most of us said, “I will love you for better or for worse.”.
Problem #2:
Jesus said that it is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35). I have typically found that actions based on self-centered motives rarely lead to a blessed life and situation. In fact, selfish motives tend to present a mirage in front of most people. It looks good from a distance, but once you get out of your current situation and into the next, you end up wondering how that image of happiness that looked so good from a distance disappeared.
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Article written by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
