Sex is Non-Existent in Our Marriage
Question: “Our sex life has gone downhill since we got married. Is this the way things are supposed to be, or am I doing something wrong?”
Answer:
Many men don’t realize that they may be their own archenemy when it comes to sex. If you want to progress in the bedroom scene, you may want to read the following excerpt out of our book on anger, Angry Without a Cause.
“Physical intimacy has been designed to be a physical expression of what has been going on all day long between a man and a woman. I often tell people that it is the top of the mountain that you begin to climb at the beginning of a day with your spouse. Men, you start that ascent by serving your wife, helping with the housework and the children, organizing a romantic getaway, calling her just for the sake of calling her, and speaking and acting kindly toward her. It should be noted that nothing aggravates a woman more than when her husband comes home and speaks rudely, neglects to connect with her and the children, watches TV for three or four hours, and about 10 P.M. says to his wife, “Hey, how about it?” If your wife is not emotionally involved with you, then she will typically have a difficult time being physically involved.
As far as anger is concerned, a man cannot speak in a harsh and cutting way toward his wife and expect her to undergo an EMOTIONAL METAMORPHOSIS between 10:30 and 11 PM. Generally speaking, it just doesn’t happen. Romance may start for you at 10 P.M., but for her it starts at 10 A.M.”
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
