New Wife is Unhappy
Question:
“My wife and I are newly married and we have been married for less than a year, but she always seems unhappy. What do I do?”
Answer:
Early in marriage, I did not fulfill my marriage vows. Though sincere, sometimes understanding, and full of high hopes and dreams, I did not know how to properly love my wife. Consequently, her spirit closed to my spirit, and, to my dismay, she was like a wilted flower without water.
What did I do then? Basically, I did everything that I wasn’t supposed to do. Instead of pouring water on my flower, I complained about my flower. I told God that He had made a mistake by giving me this wilted flower, and I grew bitter about the fact that my flower wouldn’t open up to me.
Then, one day, it started to dawn on me. I can remember it as if it were yesterday. Maybe I should take personal responsibility for the condition of my flower. Maybe, instead of complaining and trying to make her open up to me, I should just pour the love that was needed on her so that her mind, spirit, and heart would open up to me once again.
Guess what happened after that? Everything that I was trying to make her do and argue her into before that time started to come back to me from a sincere heart of love and compassion. That is, before, I was upset because my flower was closed. Therefore, I couldn’t enjoy my flower as I really wanted to, however, when I started to take personal responsibility by loving her like I said I would when I exchanged wedding vows, I started to enjoy the fragrance and the beauty of my flower once again.
God’s Word is wonderfully true. Ephesians 5:28 says, “He that loveth his wife, loveth himself.”. Translated, “When you take personal responsibility as a husband and love your wife the way she needs to be loved, generally speaking, you get all that love back in waves of honor, respect, and emotional and physical fulfillment.”.
How’s your flower today? Are you complaining about the fact that it is dry, wilted, and closed, or are you taking the time to give it a little water here and a little sunlight there? If not, you are just ensuring that your flower will stay in a dry, wilted condition with little hope of opening up.
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
