My Wife is Always Negative (Negative Wives)
Question:
“My wife has been struggling with negativity and anger for most of our 20 some years of marriage. Do you have any coaching that would address this?”
Answer:
I’ll answer your question by posting an article that I was previously able to write about wives that are negative toward their husbands and the ill-effects of such behavior.
Generally speaking, for men romance starts with the eyes, but for women it tends to start in the mind. Because of this, women tend to get an idea of what they want their man, their marriage, and, consequently, their life to be, however, when their man, their marriage, and their life are not measuring up to their expectations, they tend to become very disillusioned. It’s at this point, that many women make the mistake of mistakes. They go negative on their man.
Why is the above mentioned problematic? Because the more negative she gets with her husband, the less lovable she appears in her husband’s eyes. This only hinders his motivation toward changing and being what she really wants him to be. Listen closely to an excerpt from our Christian Anger Book, “Angry Without a Cause”:
“The woman that ridicules her husband by making sarcastic remarks and subtle inferences to his lack of leadership and abilities is not only hurting her husband, but also herself. She is not only ensuring that he will have a tough time rising above her low view of him, but she will also end up DESPISING HIM FOR NOT BEING HALF THE MAN THAT SHE HAS DISCOURAGED HIM TO BE. Deep within, she will struggle with feelings of contempt, since she longs for a man to look up to, but not a man that will look down on her. The problem is that by displaying her inner frustrations toward him, she has become her own archenemy. With her cross looks and her deep sighs, she helps to dig a pit for him that will eventually cause her to become more and more disgusted at his lack of ability to crawl out of it.”
Someone once said that those that throw dirt always lose ground. This is not only true for life in general, but also marriage. To start learning about or 2-Step Process which provides an alternative to using anger to get your way in your marriage, we would highly recommend our Audio Cd Series called How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in a Marriage. For Ordering Information, Click Here.
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
