My Husband is Not Willing to get Counseling
Question:
“How can I change my husband if he is not willing to do counseling?”
Answer:
Many husbands and wives do not realize the power of change, even if it is on an individual level. Take a look at this article that I have written:
Yes, you alone can raise the bar in your relationship with your spouse. That is, if it has been a common thing for you and your spouse to leave the “house” where the adults should be dwelling and go out to the “playground of relationships” during a disagreement, then you may need to determine to raise your relationship to a new level.
Mama always said, “It takes two to tango.”. How true this is when it comes to marriage.
In Matthew 7:2, Jesus said, “For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged.”. Translated, “What you give out is what you get back.” .
When speaking on this subject, I often use a rather crude illustration, but it works. I often say that giving out words minced with anger, bitterness, and a condescending attitude is like spitting in the wind. Once again, what you give out is what you get back. It’s a universal law that, generally speaking, applies to all.
I believe that some of our readers may need to take on the attitude that they are going to raise the bar in their relationship and, even if the other person is not willing at first, to take their relationship to a much higher level. To start you may want to order our Audio Cd series called “How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in Your Marriage”. (Click Here for more info.)
Also, let me say that giving heed to these principles may not only change your marriage, but also the lives of your children. That is, cycles of dysfunctionality do run through family trees, and you may be the generation that is able to break a particular cycle that has been prevalent in your family tree for years. In fact, this was a great motivation for me when I was a young, 21 year old man that found himself in a marriage that was lacking poor problem-solving skills. One of the thoughts that motivated me was, “Do I want my children to pick up my poor conflict resolution skills and take them into their own marriage?”.
We have two resources that may help you in your desire to raise your relationship to the next level:
1. Our book, Angry Without a Cause. (Click Here for more info.)
This is a Christian-based Anger Management book that deals with God’s perspective of Anger.
2. Our Audio Cd Series called, “How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in Your Marriage”
Click Here to watch or video that explains the philosophy behind our 2-Step process to fixing your marriage problems.
Watch this Short Video to See if Your Marriage May be Caught in the Cycle of Resentment and Anger
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
