Marriage Broke? You May Need a Specialist
The Following is an article called “Marriage Broke? You May Need a Specialist”. It is written by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force.
I often find that couples in need want to fix their marriage problems, but, often times, they do not know how or what to fix first. It kind of reminds me of something I tried to do this last week.
A few days ago, I replaced a power steering pump on my truck. Frustrating? Of course. Why? Like usual, I lacked the proper tools and the know-how to fix the problem in an efficient manner. What I really needed was a mechanic that had the tools, the experience, and the know-how to help me with my dilemma. What I needed was a specialist.
The same is true with marital issues. Marriage coaches, counselors, and family therapists are specialists that deal with marriage issues on a consistent basis. They not only have the tools and the know-how, but they also have the experience that is necessary to advise you what to do first. In fact, without a specialist, you will often end up spending needless amounts of time and energy trying to fix your marriage in a way that may not work.
Here are some mistakes that I made in the early years of our marriage when we were having difficulties:
1. I tried to love my wife in the way I like to be loved. Though my motives were good, I had some distorted methodology. That is, the way your spouse needs to be loved is probably the least natural thing for you to do. We cover this in our Audio Cd Series.
2. I thought the answer was to rekindle the same romantic feelings that we had before marriage. Listen, the type of love you need now in your marriage is a little different than when you first met. It still leads to wonderful feelings of romance and passion, nonetheless, it is still a little different. Our Audio Cd Series, How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in Your Marriage, speaks of this love.
3. I thought the answer was to accept that this is the way marriage is. At one point, my wife and I just settled into a nice little comfort zone where we stopped expecting much out of each other and the marriage. The problem with this is that God not only encourages couples to enjoy one another in marriage to the max, but he commands it. Take a look at Proverbs 5:18:
“. . . rejoice with the wife of thy youth.”
Proverbs 5:19 also says:
“. . . be thou [the husband] ravished [carried away with extreme delight and joy] with her [the wife] love.”
Notice the sense of these passages. God is not just suggesting that couples enjoy a hot and harmonious relationship with one another, but rather He is commanding it, and I like to always say that God never gives us a command that is impossible to keep!
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Article written by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
