Is Your Marriage at a Stalemate?
Is Your Marriage at a Stalemate? – by Dr. Raymond Force
Is your marriage at a stalemate? Are you both waiting for the other person to make the first move or to be the first to change? If so, you may be there for a while until someone decides to do one thing, love unconditionally.
It’s amazing to me how many people are surprised at my advice to love their spouse unconditionally when that is what we signed up to do when we exchanged wedding vows. In other words, when we said our vows, not a one of us said:
“I will love you when you measure up to all my expectations.”
or
“I will love you as long as you never hurt me.”
or
“I will love you as long as I feel happy.”
or
“I will love you as long as I feel love for you.”
Never has a wedding ceremony heard those words, yet how many marriages are living this out on a regular basis? My guess is far too many.
In our Audio Cd Series, we coach couples to break the stalemate in their marriage by loving their spouse in an unconditional manner. Though it is never a guarantee that the other person will become the man or woman of their dreams, it does help to:
1. Break the cycle of resentment and anger in a marriage
2. Disarm the spouse that is making accusation after accusation
3. Clear your conscience – You cannot make your spouse stay or leave, however, even if you make all the right decisions and they do leave, it is worth its weight in gold for you to know that you did everything within your power to save the marriage. Someone once said, “The saddest words of tongue or pen are these words what might have been”. Don’t live in a way where the vulture of regret will gnaw at your heart for years to come.
4. Obey the Lord – Faith is believing God and leaving all of the consequences to Him. If you will love in the way that you agreed to love your spouse on the wedding day (for better or for worse), God will bless you in spite of your spouse’s obedience or disobedience to his or her marriage vows. One of my favorite statements is that the promises of God concerning your own happiness and joy are never hinged upon your spouse’s obedience to God or lack thereof.
To help you to learn to love your spouse in an unconditional manner, we have produced an Audio Cd Series called How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in a Marriage. For more information, Click Here.
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Watch this Short Video to See if Your Marriage May be Caught in the Cycle of Resentment and Anger
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Article Written by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
