Is it Wrong to Stay in a Marriage for the Children (Kids)?
Question:
“Is it wrong to stay in a marriage for the children’s sake?”
Answer:
I seem to receive this question quite a bit, and I would like to answer it by giving you my opinion as well as a few hard facts. You know, there’s one thing that I’ve learned about statistics. They are awfully stubborn!
1. My Opinion:
No!
2. The Facts:
“*63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
*90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
*85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes
*80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes
*71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes
*75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes
*70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes
*85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home
Simply put, these statistics mean that children from fatherless homes are:
*5 times more likely to commit suicide
*32 more times more likely to run away
*20 times likely to have behavioral disorders
*14 times more likely to commit rape
*9 times more likely to drop out of high school
*10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances
*9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution
*20 times more likely to end up in prison” (source: www.menweb.org)
These statistics are pretty brutal, and they do not mean that if you are a single mother that your situation is hopeless. However, let’s remember, that statistics are pretty stubborn.
Of course, I would never encourage a woman to stay in an abusive relationship so that the children will not suffer, however, under normal circumstances, I would encourage a woman or a man, for that matter, to do all they can to save a marriage.
One day, you will be sitting at a family reunion, wedding, or a funeral and you will either grieve or rejoice over the state of your children and grandchildren. I would highly recommend that you do all that you can to create a warm, loving atmosphere that sets an awesome example for your children to follow. Remember, the best time to have an affect upon your grandchildren is while you are rearing your own children.
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
