I Want Out of My Marriage (Wife Wants a Divorce)
Question:
“I am so angry at my husband for years of disrespect in our marriage. He has poured himself into his work and neglected his family. I feel little love and I really want out of the marriage. Do you have any type of advice for me?”
Answer:
I will not try to answer all of your problems, however, I would like to address your attitude toward your husband and marriage at this time by posting a previous article that I have written.
Some seem to think that the greatest need for someone having marriage difficulties is pity and sorrow. Actually, most people will produce enough of this on their own without your help. In fact, when people go through marriage difficulties, they often start to wallow in their own feelings of self-pity. Although this is natural and all too common, it is not necessarily beneficial. Marijuana, by the way, is also natural, however, that does not always mean that it is good for your body and mind.
Now, am I saying that your friends and family members should withhold their comfort from you? Of course not. Am I purporting that others surrounding you should show little compassion? I think the question answers itself. What I am saying though is that I find many husbands and wives that are, to be frank, extremely angry that they are in this predicament and, all too often, their anger has pushed them over the cliff of unforgiveness and into an ocean of pity. From this point on, until they get the courage, the gumption, and the “know-how” to swim to shore, they can rest assured that their sorrow and misery will only continue to perpetuate the cycle of resentment that has already done much to destroy their current relationship with their spouse.
Are you having marriage troubles? I have a question. Are you perpetually engaged in thought and conversation that is shrouded in self-pity and misery? May I make a pertinent statement to you? Your thoughts and feelings of self-pity and sorrow will do little at this time to help you to move forward in your relationship with God and your spouse. To be perfectly honest, feeling sorry for yourself will only cause you to be less of the person that you need to be to create an atmosphere where change is more likely to occur. Forgive, get up, and do what is necessary to change yourself and your marriage!
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Answer submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
