How to Have a Perfect Marriage
How to Have a Perfect Marriage – by Christian Marriage / Youth Speaker, Dr. Raymond Force
1. Accept that the perfect marriage is full of imperfections:
I like to tell some couples that we are not in Heaven yet. That is, as long as we have to carry around this flesh that has a bent toward selfishness, every marriage will have to deal with imperfections from time to time.
In I Corinthians 7:28, Paul stated that they that marry will have “trouble in the flesh”. Now, does this mean that every married couples is destined to a life full of misery? On the contrary, Proverbs 5:19 exalts God’s standard for marriage in that a husband is to always be ravished with the love of his wife. Simply put, God’s will is that couples enjoy a hot and harmonious relationship, and I am a firm believer that God does not give us commands that we are unable to keep!
Nevertheless, life and, consequently, marriage is an uphill battle that must be fought with unconditional love and an understanding that a perfect marriage will have its imperfections. The real question is, however, how do you deal with those imperfections?
2. Perfectly deal with your imperfections.
As stated earlier, the perfect marriage will always have its imperfections, however, you can always choose to deal with those imperfections in a perfect manner. This, in my opinion, is what separates the marriage that is merely surviving from the marriage that is thriving.
Mark it down. If you deal with your marital issues by yelling, using sarcasm, name-calling, and throwing temper tantrums, your marriage is far from perfect. But, not as far as you may think. You may just need to tweak the way that you are dealing with your issues so that you and your spouse are able to stay in a problem solving mode.
3. Start heading toward what I call the “north pole”.
There are a thousand different ways that couples find to head toward what I call the “south pole”. The “south pole” is where anger, bitterness, strife, and resentment dwell.
When I first started to work with couples, I would spend large amounts of time trying to keep couples from taking the hundreds of different ways that they find to head toward the “south pole”. However, I found that the best way to ensure that couples stay away from the “south pole” is by encouraging them to head toward the “north pole”. In other words, I found that if couples will concentrate on doing just a few positive steps, by virtue of doing the positive steps, they will often avoid doing many of the negative things that they formerly did to irritate one another.
In our coaching and our Audio Cd Series, I walk couples through what I call a 2-step process to fixing their marital issues. These 2-steps help couples to head toward the “north pole”, and by virtue of walking toward the “north pole”, they are often able to walk away from areas where anger and strife typically dwell.
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Article Written by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
