Can One Person Change a Marriage?
Mama always told me, “It takes two to tango.”. Obviously, she wasn’t talking about dancing, but rather arguing, fighting, and not getting along.
We have also applied this same principle to marriage in our 2-Step process in that, in many cases, if only one person is willing to make a few changes, they can stop the cycle of fighting, arguing, and resentment in a marriage relationship.
Now, how can we accomplish this? Do we just tell people to stop raising their voice, lashing out, et cetera? Sorry, but, for the most part, that really doesn’t work all that well. Actually, I have found that the best way to make sure that you are not heading toward the south-pole is to start heading toward the north-pole. In other words, our 2-Step process involves doing two positive things that oftentimes causes people to stop doing the hundreds of negative things that they often find themselves doing to irritate the other person in the marriage.
Now, what if only one person is willing to change? Can they still stop the cycle of resentment in a marriage? To that question, I would have to say, “Yes.”. Why do I say this?
1. It worked for our marriage.
I call my wife the all-time MVP when it comes to dealing with a once, difficult man. Her changes, early in our marriage, made room for me to see myself and make the appropriate changes in our relationship. In reality, when she stayed out of the cycle of resentment and anger, she simply isolated my negative behavior to the point where I had to see that I was the primary problem in the relationship. Now, that’s one wise woman! (Good-look’n too!)
2. I see it work for our clients.
I have had numerous clients that have done solo work with me on the phone that are now enjoying a wonderful relationship with their spouse. In fact, some had spouses that basically had one foot out the door, and, after following our 2-Step process, their spouses became attracted to the wonderful changes in their mate.
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Article submitted by Christian Marriage Speaker and Coach, Dr. Raymond Force
